Get Her to Say Yes

March 3, 2012

house4At some point, most men feel they have finished with their frat-boy party days and are ready to settle down, get married, and start a family. Finding that one special girl is only half the battle, however.  If you want her to say yes when you pop the question, you need to demonstrate to her that you are truly ready for this level of commitment. Beyond the emotions of love and the excitement of a wedding, what truly matters to most young women is seeing that her potential groom is prepared for the future. If you want to be sure she will say yes, there are a few steps you might want to take first.

Is your employment secure?  Don’t let notions of gold diggers and shallow, materialistic women get in the way of this important fact: women are not after you for money, but if you want a woman to have children with you and rely on you, she will evaluate whether you will be a good provider. This is a natural instinct that goes all the way back to our caveman roots, and there isn’t a whole lot you can do about it other than play along. Remember that when a woman is pregnant or taking care of a small child, she can be very dependent upon a man. You want her to feel secure enough to accept your proposal, so if your career isn’t already established, work on that first before popping the question.

Have you been researching how to buy a house?  If you haven’t, you need to be thinking about this. Don’t worry too much; it’s not that she’s going to evaluate your home and then pick the man who has the biggest one. Again, it is about seeing that you are responsible and prepared for the future. You might have a lot of fun eating take-out on the floor and engaging in water balloon battles with your roommate, but if you want a woman to see you as a responsible man who is prepared to have a family, looking into home ownership (and a dining room table) is not a bad idea.

Rest assured that what matters to most women is that she truly loves you, and she will want to say yes when you ask her to marry you. It is very unlikely you will hear a “no” when proposing. However, if the future looks uncertain you may hear a “maybe later”.  If you get your ducks in a row first, the answer is sure to be “yes” right away.

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