The good news is, there is probably nothing wrong with you. You may just need a new approach to dating. Online dating can be tricky, and maybe you just haven’t gotten the hang of it yet. Try these online dating tips and see if your luck improves.
What if your emails are not getting any responses? Check a couple of things before you allow yourself to get discouraged. Do you have a good photo on your profile? That is the number one reason many dating site members don’t respond to emails. Make sure you upload at least one good photo – more than that is better. Also be sure the people you are writing still have active accounts. If your site has this feature, check to see their “last online” stats. If they haven’t been online in a while, it’s probably because they’re no longer active members or they’re dating someone already. In either case, it’s nothing personal if they don’t reply.
Are your emails interesting? Do you send emails that simply say, “hi”? Men in particular try the “cast a bigger net” approach to dating. Newsflash: Women are on to you, and they don’t like this. A woman likes to feel as if you are interested in her in particular, and most importantly, something she said on her profile. No woman wants to feel like a guy just wants a woman, any woman, to reply to him. She wants to feel special. So take some time and look over profiles. When you email someone, tell them specifically what you liked in their profile or ask a few questions. There is no need to write a novel; just a few sentences will do.
Check your timing. If you ask someone out before you’ve even had a conversation, they will most likely feel you are only asking them out for their looks. They may sense your impatience as desperation. On the other hand, if you wait forever to ask someone out, they may think you have no interest beyond an online friendship and move on to better prospects. A good rule to remember is, if you’ve had a nice conversation for a week or so, then it is time to move the discussion to a dinner date.